Appreciation, is one thing one must learn

On the way back home I was chatting with a friend. I've known this friend for several months, and everytime we hung out he seemed being unable to stop complaining about things against him, things he's not satisfied with, things that other people do and say he think meaningless and unuseful. Soon after his short break I simply asked, "seems everything is meaningless for you, what sort do you reckon is meaningful?" "I don't know," so he replied, then kept on complaining as if this question were meaningless.

It's interesting that people of this world have never learned to appreciate. There are always things to complain, to be cynical about. When things don't go on their way, they complain how unfair others treat them, complain about God, as if all the faults are from God and hence He should do something about it. This is very dangerous, 'cause being cynical and complaint can degrade a person, worsen the beauty of personality. One with this mindset would even treat people around him as enemies without inspecting themselves and see if there is something he can change. Recently I'm reading a book called "I am David". One important paragraph reads, "Never let me hear you say it's someone else's fault. It often is, but you must never shirk your own responsibility. There's always something where you're at fault, too, and that fault you must discover and learn to recongize and take the consequences of it...both because it's the ONLY HONORABLE THING TO DO and also because IT'S THE EASIER WAY. You can't change others, but you can do something about a fault in yourself."

So I made a decision to forgive the mistakes and misunderstandings that those people did to me. They're Nora's friend, so I told her this is what I decide. At the same time I started to think about the mistakes I had had and immediately knew what I should do in the future. I did this not because of God, I made this decision out of my very own free will. Of course there are still a lot more about which I have been complaining, and just right now is the time to change, and I know it's never too late.